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If someone in your family tries to have sex
with you (incest)
It is never right for someone to touch you if you do not want
to be touched. Family members, such as your cousin, uncle,
brother, or father should not touch your genitals or any other
part of your body in a sexual way. If this happens, you need to
get help. Even if the man says he will hurt you if you tell, you
need to tell an adult you trust as soon as possible. Sometimes
it is best to tell someone outside your family such as a woman
teacher or religious leader in your community.
Young girls and older men
Some girls are attracted to older men. Going with an older
man may seem very exciting, especially if he is well known or
important in your community, or if he
has money and can buy things. In some
places a man who buys his girlfriend many
presents is called a ‘Sugar Daddy’. Often
a girl who goes with an older man ends
up feeling she was used for sex or treated
badly, especially if the man is married or
has other women.
Sometimes an older man can make a
young woman feel more pressured to have
sex than boys her own age can, especially if
he has power over her.
Don’t let Mr. Chifeve push you into it,
Tarisai. Remember Alice? He got her
pregnant and she had to leave school. I
will help you tell Mama and Baba.
In many communities, more young women and girls are getting infected with
HIV than any other group of people. There is more risk for girls who have sex
with older men, because older men have usually had more chances to become
infected with HIV. But it can happen with a man of any age.
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