wikiHow to Be a Popular Girl in a Private School

If you're about to switch from public to a private school, these tips can help you feel confident and blend in on your first day. Appearance is important because first impressions can stick with you for a long time. So, try some of these ideas to help you look your best and be your best!


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    Get the accessories right and make sure you're up-to-date on all the latest fashion trends, movies, music, and celebrity gossip!
    • Hair: Many girls wear their hair in a messy bun with one of those skinny headbands. If your hair is short or layered, and pieces fall out when you make a ponytail, use colored barrettes instead of a headband (they're cute, and give you that nice,unique look).
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    • Nails: If nail polish is allowed, don't be afraid to use different colors like neons or sparkly polishes. Little details like your nails can show people your personality so be creative! If you just want a clean-cut, pretty look, you can try french tips (on your own if they're long enough or fake nails) or clear polish.
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    • Shoes: In private schools, there are usually rules about shoes. Usually, they have to be dress shoes and/or be a certain color. If there are no rules about shoes, wear cute ones like uggs. Ballet flats are always cute. White vans are great as well, even though many people have them. You might be allowed to wear high heels. If you can, don't wear really tall ones and only wear heels in high school, otherwise you're just going to look weird. If you can, wear Toms. They are for a good cause, make you seem nice and giving, and are super cute. Also, Sperrys are cute too. You might think they're just for preppies but they're not. If your school allows it, get the ones with your favorite colors and patterns on the side. Also, try to wear colors that match your uniform. For example, if you wear a navy and green plaid skirt, wear navy or green shoes.
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    • Make up: Do not go overboard on the make up; natural make up looks casual and pretty! Just make sure it looks natural and enhance your natural beauty. A bit of concealer, face powder, light blush or bronzer, thin eyeliner on top eyelash line, mascara and a very light lipstick - if you apply these things lightly, it will make your face look really pretty and not fake or caked on. Less is more.
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    Own the attitude. Attitude is one thing that can make or break you. If you act too confident, people may see you as being full of yourself or stuck up. If you aren't confident enough, people will think you're shy and won't approach you. Just smile, have good posture (back straight, shoulders back, head up, don't slouch), and look people in the eye.
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    Make conversation. In many wikiHow articles, people suggest making small talk and using ice-breakers like "It looks like it is going to rain" or "What class do you have next?" Don't do that! Your conversations will run dry in seconds if you start with a topic like that. Turn to a group of girls and ask, "Does anyone have Honors English 1 next hour?". That way, you will give off a confident impression and also find someone to sit next to in the first hour! Talk to the girl that's going to be in your class and ask her what things she likes. Girls come from all over to go to private schools, so if you haven't heard of that thing before, ask her what that is. This will lead to a longer conversation, and maybe even a friendship!
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    During your first class, don't be afraid to raise your hand if you know an answer and ask questions if you need to. This will show your teachers that you are eager to learn and want to do your assignments correctly. And if someone asks to borrow a pencil or a piece of paper, don't be objective, lend it to them! It's better to be known as friendly, kind, and sharing than stingy and selfish!
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    During lunch, sit near the girl that you met with the advice from Step 3, and even invite other girls you met in class or near your locker to sit with you. Eventually you will have a full table and lots of girls to talk to and it will appear to others that you are very friendly and easy to talk to since you are sitting with so many people.
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    If you really hit it off with someone on your first day, tell them you should hang out sometime, add them on Facebook, ask them for their AIM/email, and even ask them for their cell number if you hit off well with them!
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    Do your homework and be prepared for class tomorrow! You want to give a good impression to teachers, too! You can't have any friends if you're in detention all day after all!
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    Ask one of your new friends if they are trying out for a sport! Do this on the second day or on Facebook. If you share the same interest, tell them you wanted to try out too, and ask if they know when try-outs or practices are. Sports and extra-curricular activities are a great way to meet friends with the same hobbies and interests as you.
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    You should always try to be nice, insults may make some people laugh, but the one who's getting dissed won't be laughing and will probably won't think you're very friendly. They might even try to get back at you so play it safe and if someone is bothering don't avoid it but just tell them how you feel. It shows that you have guts, and people with respect you for that.
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    Popular girls can have the personality trait of anywhere between a kindhearted angel to a diva. Either way, befriend one of the friendly popular girls and dress your best. That'll be your ticket in to the popular group!
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    Customize your uniform. Tie a hair-tie to the back of your shirt to tighten it.


  • Bring mints or gum in your backpack or purse for after lunch to avoid nasty breath! Bringing mints and gum is also a great way to make friends. It can be an easy conversation starter!
  • Look into joining sports teams, clubs, and helping with anything school-spirit related. Popular girls are generally in Spirit Club, Leadership, Journalism, etc.
  • Be friendly and kind but do not act arrogant, first impressions stick. If you are good at soccer but your friend hates it just do it. You could make new friends.
  • Buy a sweatshirt from the school store if they sell them. They are nice and warm in the winter, and your school may blast the air conditioning, so bring it just in case and keep it in your locker!
  • Make sure you're up-to-date on fashion trends, movies, TV shows, music, and celebrity gossip. Your classmates will probably notice your brands and fashion choices!
  • Some private schools don't allow makeup. Oh no! You can usually pull off a little concealer and foundation. But if the teacher sees you have it on and makes you wash it off that can be really embarrassing.
  • Go to the mixers, especially if you go to an all-girls school!
  • If you have days where you get casual dress, take advantage of them! Wear really cute clothes from Hollister or Abercrombie. If you can wear any kind of sweatshirt, wear something from Abercrombie or Hollister. This shows that you shop at the popular stores and the popular girls will like you. Don't be afraid to wear something else if you're not into those stores.
  • On the First Day, Try to see who is popular, and on the second day, hang out with the nice people.
  • Don't forget about what you're in school for! Focus on your schoolwork and family relationships. They come first!
  • Don't befriend a person because of their wealth or appearance, look for friendly traits in a person instead!


  • Don't try to be too cool. People will think that you're a snobby poser desperate to be popular and it will be harder to make friends.
  • Don't go overboard! Keep in mind that you are perfect the way you are and being popular isn't meant for everyone.
  • Don't wear concealer that doesn't match your skin tone, if it doesn't match it won't look very good on you.
  • Don't wear anything way out there on the first day of school. Use the first day to observe what others wear.

Things You'll Need

  • Natural everyday makeup, such as mascara, concealer (make SURE it matches your skin, nobody likes orange under-eyes.), eye shadow, and lip gloss. Eyeliner, foundation, and blush are also acceptable but not necessary. Great makeup brands include Maybelline, Revlon, L'Oreal, CoverGirl, Estee Lauder, and pretty much anything from Sephora!, Chanel and Lancome are some of the best.
  • Hair products such as shampoo & conditioner (try Pantene Ice Shine-it works amazingly), ponytail holders, hair ribbons, headbands, and hairclips are absolutely necessary.
  • Unless your school has a uniform, you'll need stylish, trendy clothes to wear. Try Abercrombie, PINK, Hollister, and Juicy Couture. For cheaper options, go for Forever 21 and Charlotte Russe. PacSun and American Eagle are medium-priced versions of these stores. All of these shops have adorable clothes that fit almost every size.
  • Details such as nail polish, jewelry, shoes, and perfume can make the biggest difference. Almost every nail color is acceptable, but the best are pink, red, lavender and French manicures. Chunky jewelry will most likely NOT look good if your school has a uniform. If it doesn't, you can easily make it work with your outfits. Also go for charms, pearls, or diamond jewelry--they're all classic trends that will never go out of style. Shoes are crucial. Go for brands such as Nike (great for after-school practices and gym class), Coach, Ugg, and Juicy Couture sneakers! Most girls wear perfume, body spray from Hollister/A&F/etc, or body mist/spray/lotion from Bath & Body Works.

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