How to Be an Attractive Woman

Four Methods:Be YouBe OutgoingBe PositiveTake Care of Yourself

There is a common misconception that physical appearance completely determines attractiveness, but this is simply not true. If you want people to be drawn to you, there are a variety of things you can do as a woman that will have others flocking to you in time.

Method 1
Be You

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    Be distinctly you. Don't copy movie stars like Jessica Lange or Andrea Thompson to achieve your look, If you observe people at a party or any social gathering, you'll notice the majority of guys are drawn to women with unique (but not intimidating) personalities. Focus on what makes you interesting and fun to talk to, and let those aspects of your personality shine through.
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    Love yourself. You can be pretty but not attractive if you don't learn how to love yourself. Nobody will care how shiny and thick your hair is, for example, if you keep complaining about your waist size. Confidence is powerful and infectious, so try to learn to be confident.
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    Be principled. Stick up for what you believe in. Knowing what you like and don't like, what you believe in and what you disavow, is extremely attractive. Being principled will help you maintain your moral compass and keep your social life tidy.
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    Don't necessarily listen to the opinion of other women when pursuing men. Every woman has their own perception of beauty and what they think men find attractive. "Wear this," "Do that," "Show your left ankle; men love it, and they will respect you for it too!" While sometimes helpful, this kind of advice can keep you distracted from the real goal: expressing who you are.
    • Go with your own gut, your own instinct; the men who don't respect you for it aren't the men you want to attract. Besides, women all have different ways/methods of attracting others.

Method 2
Be Outgoing

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    Be willing to participate. Whether it's talking, eating, gaming, dancing, or snorkeling, it's only polite to join in. Who knows, you might learn something, too. A person who just sits there watching might as well be wearing a flashing neon sign that says "I'm a boring person who doesn't like fun!"
    • This doesn't mean you should join in drinking or partying if you're not into those things. Participate only in what you have fun doing.
    • To get involved, walk kindly up to a person or group and ask, "Do you mind if I join you?" If they say yes, go ahead and have fun. If they say no, you probably wouldn't have had fun joining them anyway!
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    Be capable of carrying on a conversation. You don't need to have something in common with a guy for conversation to blossom, but it helps. If a guy tries to talk to you and you just stand there, he's going to move on, so learn to be interested in lots of different topics and remember to ask questions.
    • A good conversation starter is to ask his opinion about something superficial, such as whether INXS picked the right guy or if he did anything fun recently. Avoid asking him for input about your looks, as it can seem like you're fishing for compliments.
    • Keep the conversation light. Above all, don't put yourself down, unless you do so in a humorous way.
    • Maintain eye contact. This will help establish a deeper connection. You're reminding him that you're paying attention, and that you expect him to do the same.

Method 3
Be Positive

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    Be kind. A rude person turns ugly in the eyes of whoever who sees her, just as someone who's nice turns into a prettier person in the eyes of everyone who sees her.
    • Try to be nice to everyone, but also be ready to defend yourself against any rude attitudes, since letting people walk all over you is not very attractive.
    • If anyone is "different", avoid making fun of them or giving them a nasty, "I am better than you" look.
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    Don't be afraid to smile. Even a little smile will make you more attractive. What else could be more inviting and approachable?
    • Be readable. You don't have to be predictable, but don't keep a poker face when it comes to emotions. Guys want a little feedback.
    • Don't force it if it's not there. Try to smile, but don't be fake. Smile when you feel like it.

Method 4
Take Care of Yourself

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    Be healthy. Eyes take kindly to a woman who takes care of herself.
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    Take care of your skin. Blemishes, especially those on the face, can be distracting.
    • Wash your face regularly, and wear moisturizer and sunblock daily to prevent wrinkles and sun damage.
    • Apply makeup to accentuate your complexion, but never to hide your features.
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    Be hygienic. Maintain your body's cleanliness so that you always smell and look fresh and lovely.
    • Take showers, brush your teeth after every meal, and wear clean clothes.
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    Keep your hair healthy and styled. They say that the hair is the portrait of the face, so make sure it looks great.
    • Comb and brush your hair every day. Greasy or damaged hair is seldom attractive.
    • Favor styles that fit your facial shape. Accentuate your natural features instead of fighting against them.
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    Visit a day spa. You don't have to do it every week, but don't be afraid to pamper yourself every once in a while. Get a manicure and pedicure, a massage, or a facial. If you feel good, chances are you'll look good, too.
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    Be stylish. Make sure you look your best no matter what. Wear clothes that flatter you, and don't forget to accessorize.
    • Even if you're wearing sweat pants, dab a little gloss onto your lips and wear gold hoop earrings or a bracelet.
    • Try wearing a fitted top with loose bottoms, or fitted bottoms with a loose top for an "attractive" outfit.
    • For more special occasions, try wearing high heeled sandals, a flowy blouse and skinny jeans.


  • Try to look the best that you can be, in other words show how great you are on the inside and on the outside
  • Some guys will just not like you and you'll just have to accept it. Keep in mind that you do not need everyone to like you.
  • Be accepting of others. Every person wants to be accepted for who he or she is. It's not your job to get along with everybody else in the world, but you owe others respect if you expect them to respect you back.
  • Don't change your looks to please other people. Only change your looks to please yourself.
  • Find activities you like to do, and expand on them. That way, you'll attract people who like the same thing and you will become interest to others more in general because of your unique skills!
  • Be lighthearted and roll with the punches.
  • Don't change for a person. Just because you want to be with them doesn't mean you have to change for them. If they really cared about you, they'd like you for who you are.
  • Don't force something if it isn't there. Even if it is a bit disappointing, move on. There are plenty more fish in the sea!
  • Never hide your feelings. If you are too shy to talk to him about it just drop subtle hints.
  • If the guy you like said something you are against feel free to express your opinions while trying to understand his side also.
  • Be confident about yourself. Accept rejection and criticism politely and try to improve your flaws.
  • * If he feels shy to talk to you, move forward and start a conversation.


  • Speak your mind, but don't be surprised when people disagree. You have reasons for your beliefs, just like other people do. Be accepting of differences of opinion.
  • Don't copy other people. You are the seed of your own originality.
  • Don't be shallow. When looking for a serious relationship, girls want to find a partner who is interested in them for not just their looks. Believe it or not, the same goes for guys. At least for guys who are worth more than 10 minutes of your time.
  • Don't be obsessed with what's in vogue. Being fashionable is great, but don't be afraid listen to your own fashion sense. The men who really deserve your time and attention will respect you for the person you are, regardless of how fashion-savvy you are.
  • Do not expose yourself too much. Guys might like what you wear, but they probably won't respect you if you flaunt your figure.

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