How to Get Yourself Together After Betrayal

So, the guy or girl you thought could be "the one" just went and cheated on you with some random girl or guy in your science class. Read this to understand the steps that you need to take to get over your ex.


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    Be ready to ask, "Why Me?" The inevitable first question to pop up in your mind will be: Why me?! If your ex felt the need to go behind your back to be with someone else, there must be something wrong with you, right? WRONG! Sure your ego has taken a huge hit and you can come up with a thousand reasons as to why you are to blame. But if your ex cheated on you, chances are he/she needed no reason to do so. All that self hate that follows is only the result of a broken heart and you can’t really blame yourself. The point is, your relationship may have been going through the worst possible phase but even that’s no excuse for your ex to do what he/she did. So what do you do? Stop mulling over it. You are not at fault and he/she was not good enough for you. No one who cheats ever is. The sooner you accept that, the sooner you will get over it.
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    Mourn! This is undoubtedly the worst phase of the “recovery” process. And we’ve all been there. Sometimes it’s so bad that you feel like you have hit rock bottom. Everyone has their own ways of mourning. Do what you have to do.
    • Remember the silver lining… everything from now is only going to get better.
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    Accept it. Once you’re done mourning, accept the breakup. Accept that it is over. This may be your first big step towards healing.
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    Get distracted! What in the world would we do without friends? Go out with the girls or your mates/guys. Party it up. Have fun! Take up a new hobby. Take a trip! Anything to get your mind off the ex. And please avoid places that remind you of your ex.
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    Avoid the temptations of your ex. Here you are thinking that the hard part is over when suddenly vulnerability sets in. Know that it is very normal to miss your ex and want him/her back even though he/she broke your heart. You miss the familiarity and the companionship and you begin to wonder… “What if I call to just say Hello”….”One cup of coffee wouldn’t hurt” …That’s how it starts but trust me, you do NOT want to go down that road again!
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    Move on. When you are ready to move on… you will. Consider forgiving him/her. Of course that’s easier said than done but you will find that forgiving him/her will not only make you the bigger person but help you in moving on. Do not rush into a new relationship. At the same time, do not shut yourself from the possibility of something new. Sure, your last relationship ended on a horrible note but be open to giving love another chance. Stop drawing parallels between your ex and the new guy/girl. Contrary to popular belief, not all men are the same & neither are girls. Sit down with the new guy and talk to him/her. Tell him/her how you honestly feel, express your fears and trust issues and if it’s meant to be, he/she will completely understand, right?
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    Take it one step at a time and you will be just fine. And one day when you wake up, you will find that you are no longer hurting.

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