How to Make Out

Three Parts:Initiating the Make Out SessionKeeping Things InterestingWinding Down

While kissing someone you like for even a few seconds can be electrifying or intense enough on it's own, making out takes kissing to a new level. If you want to make out the right way, then you have to know how to sustain your passion, mix things up, and make your kissing partner feel appreciated. Whether you've been with the same person for a while or you're kissing someone new, read on to find out how to make out like a pro.

Part 1
Initiating the Make Out Session

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    Make eye contact. Meet your kissing partner's eyes and give him or her a little smile to show that you're ready for some action. You can also gently lean your forehead against your kissing partner's, put your hand on his face, touch his leg, or even give him or her a quick peck on the lips before you really start kissing. This helps start a connection and gets your partner more ready to kiss you; if you swoop in without any warning, the kissing session may be unexpected -- and not in a good way.
    • Your eye contact doesn't have to be super intense, especially if you're just starting out with this person. Just a few seconds of eye contact should get the message across.
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    Move slowly and gently. This is very important. The best way to prevent head-butting, elbowing, and clanking teeth is to do everything slowly, especially in the beginning and when you're changing positions. As time progresses, you can introduce more passionate kissing techniques, but they can only be sustained for so long. Always return to a slow, comfortable pace. Start with a kiss on the lips, then, if you want to French kiss, slowly move your tongue into your partner's mouth as he or she does the same.
    • Once your tongues are in each other's mouths, you can move them slowly in a circular motion, move them on top of each other, or do whatever feels good without moving too fast or getting sloppy.
    • Remember that if you're making out for the first time, you have to be extra cautious before you begin. The first time is about figuring out the person's comfort level, boundaries, and favorite maneuvers.
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    Keep your hands busy. This doesn't mean that you should frantically paw your kissing partner every chance you get. However, you'll be more comfortable kissing if you don't keep your hands neatly planted on your lap. Once you're comfortable, and especially if you're sitting down, try to explore your kissing partner's body -- as long as you're both okay with it. Basically, just keep your hands moving from time to time, so you don't get stuck in the same old boring position. Try cupping their face, touching their waist, or holding hands.
    • If you're kissing a man, put your arms around his neck or touch his arms, neck, back of his head, or even his chest.
    • If you're kissing a woman, touch her shoulders and her waist, and wait for the signal that she's ready for more.
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    Tease your kissing partner. You can still play hard to get in the middle of a make out session. When it's going great, just pull back for a second and look into your kissing partner's eyes. Locking eyes will be sexy and will make your kissing partner want to kiss you even more badly. Though you shouldn't try this move all the time, once or twice per make out session will do the trick.
    • This is also a great move if you need a little break from so much kissing.
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    Remember to come up for air. Taking a little break from kissing is perfectly fine and can even help get you back into the kissing mindset. If you're tired but don't want to stop yet, just come up for air, slow down your kissing pace, or don't be afraid to take a quick bathroom break or ask for a glass of water. If you're not feeling comfortable with so much kissing, then you won't be able to enjoy yourself or give your best effort.
    • It's okay. Taking a break from time to time will actually make you a better kisser.

Part 2
Keeping Things Interesting

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    Talk a little. A little verbal communication will keep things interesting. It's not a good time to start a deep conversation, though. Just a small phrase in a soft voice, especially when accompanied by eye contact and a smile will communicate closeness during the make out without saying a whole lot. You don't have to be silent to be sexy, and if you want to say something, as long as it won't ruin the mood, go for it.
    • Obviously, you shouldn't switch the subject from anything romantic completely. Now's not the time to ask about the math homework.
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    Keep things light. This isn't the movies, where it's all perfect and planned out! You're both human and there will be awkward moments here and there, no matter how many instructions you read. If anything awkward does happen, be quick to mend it with some light laughter or a gentle push. Making out is just as much about having fun as it is about being turned on.
    • If you're fumbling awkwardly, really, it's better to make a joke about it than to pretend you're Mr. Smooth.
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    Kiss your special someone's face and neck. Vary the kissing routine by moving away from their lips occasionally. Again, move slowly. If you move too quickly, they might not know what you're doing and next thing you know, your lips are crashing into their nose. Kiss the corner of their mouth gently, making your way along their jawline. You can move up to your partner's temple and forehead, or down to his or her neck.
    • Try giving your kissing partner a slightly wet kiss on the neck and then blow on it so they feel a shiver.
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    Stroke your kissing partner's hair. If your partner is a man, run your fingers through his hair along the scalp from front to back, all the way down to his neck. If your partner is a lady, you can run your fingers down her hair, letting the strands run through your fingers. The head is one of the most sensitive parts of the human body. Don't underestimate the hair as an important place to touch during a make out session.
    • Keep in mind, however, that some hairstyles are not conducive to this. If she has her hair tied up or it's quite curly, your fingers might get trapped. Instead, run the tips of your fingers slowly along the top and around her ear, as if you're tucking a stray strand behind her ear.
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    Give a few gentle bites. Hey, biting your partner's neck, ears, or even his or her bottom lip can do wonders for your make out session. Don't be afraid to try it once you're comfortable enough with your partner to experiment. Take a very gentle bite of his bottom lip, and then work your way over to nibble on his or her earlobe or neck and see how your love responds. If administered correctly, the tiny bite can make your partner go crazy with pleasure.
    • Be forewarned: the gentle -- or not so gentle -- bite is not for all tastes, but if your special someone likes it, he will really like it.
    • If you're nervous about this move, practice on your hand first.
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    Whisper in your kissing partner's ear. Whispering in your partner's ear is a great way to keep the passion going when you take a break from kissing. Just take a break, lean in to your special someone's ear, and whisper something short and sweet that lets him or her know how much you like kissing. Just say, "You're so sexy," or, "I've been wanting to kiss you all day," and your boyfriend or girlfriend will love it.
    • As you're talking, you can breathe on your partner's neck to make him shiver.
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    Keep mixing things up. The most important thing to keep in mind as you make out is to keep things interesting by trying something new every once in a while. Just sitting there with your hands in the same position, kissing in the same way, will get old fast. So, mix things up between pecks on the lips, gentle love bites, passionate French kissing, and doing whatever else you need to do to keep things interesting.
    • You don't have to try 10,000 new moves in the middle of a make out session. But trying at least two or three different things can help spice things up.

Part 3
Winding Down

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    Let your kissing partner know when you need a break. There are two post-make out options: either you move on to something more and get even more hot and heavy, or you realize that you want to take a break. Assuming you want to take a break or stop kissing, slowly move away from your partner, giving him one last, passionate kiss. You don't have to end things abruptly. When you feel like you're getting tired, or know that you have to leave soon, then you should slowly start removing yourself from the situation, limb by limb.
    • Don't apologize about it. Everyone needs a break from time to time.
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    Let your kissing partner know how much you liked it. Give your significant other some validation by giving him a big hug, one last kiss, or a big smile -- or even by saying, "That was amazing," or "I love kissing you." Even "I can't get enough of you" will do the trick if you mean it. Your special someone should feel confident and good about what just happened so it can happen again.
    • Don't be shy. You don't have to blurt out "I love you!" but hey, if you had a hot time, let it be known.
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    Leave your kissing partner wanting more. As you finish up the make out session, you should make sure that there's a repeat on the horizon. When you're done kissing, you should still stay sexy, be affectionate, and leave your kissing partner wanting more. You can say you can't wait to hang out again when you say goodbye, or even send a cute text saying what a great time you had later.
    • Though it may be hard to stay in the mood forever, try to keep things sexy for as long as you can after the make out session. That will make your kissing partner even more eager to see you again.


  • Don't force it. The best kisses are the ones that come naturally when the time is right.
  • Before you make out, make sure you know how far you're willing to let things go. If things get a little too heavy, be prepared to tell your partner that you're not ready to take it all the way.
  • Close your eyes while kissing. It's fine to peek, but for most people it's creepy to make out with someone who has their eyes wide open the whole time. Moreover, you'll tend to only see a blur rather than distinct outlines, which isn't the most pleasant experience.
  • Try to always have fresh breath––no one likes kissing a person with bad breath. Breath spray, chewing gum, or a box of mints are great things to keep with you.
  • There's no "required" way to kiss. Most of the time, just let things happen naturally and go with the flow, then stop when you seem it's right.
  • If you feel scared but your partner is insisting warn them by changing the subject fast.
  • If you don't know how the other person is feeling with what you are doing just stop and give her/him time to thinks by holding their hand or hugging!
  • Make sure you have an awesome time! If you are not comfortable with making out with someone, you should definitely let them know.
  • If you think he's the one, tell him and see how he reacts. Make sure he's not just trying to have sexual relations with you.
  • Let him or her guide you if you are unsure of what you're supposed to do.
  • A good way to open the door to communication is to ask them if there's anything you can do better or anything they'd like you to try. By doing this, you might just learn something and they may very well follow with asking you the same question.
  • Making out involves more than just your lips; depending on the level of relationship, move your hands towards more sensitive zones, or wrap your legs around your partner or move your hips in closer. But make sure your partner is ready and work up to it slowly.
  • Try to kiss the person like you want to be kissed. Kissing is an interactive experience, and each partner needs to follow the other's lead at some time.
  • Be sure your kissing partner is ready. Signs of readiness include licking their lips, constantly touching their mouth, suggestive eating or drinking, putting their head close to yours and looking at you with a tilted head. When you start to kiss, brush your relaxed lips lightly against theirs, with your mouth slightly open. This will indicate your intentions and will give you an immediate sign of readiness or disinterest.
  • You don't always have to make out, you can change it up a bit.
  • If you aren't ready to go further with your partner, tell them. It's better to speak up then regret something later on.
  • Remember to breathe!
  • If you're not ready to kiss, just hug them whenever it seems like a good kissing opportunity.
  • Make sure you don't get too passionate.
  • If the partner doesn't know how to kiss slowly, guide them through and indicate your intentions before you do something.
  • Don't breath in their mouth. They can die from you breath. It is bad to do this breathing in mouth thing so tell your partner about the breathing problem a couple days after. Then your partner won't know what your planning to do (kissing) and then you will not die at all.
  • While making out, it is better to "break" rather than "hold" the kiss. Kiss, then back out only a little bit, barely breaking the kiss. Then, move forward again. You should not simply hold a kiss with your partner and do what is called "tongue wrestling." However, some people may prefer this way of making out due to the pleasure it may cause someone.
  • Also, don't go straight for the lips. Start with kissing the cheek or on the nose and keep eye contact afterwards. Then if your partner wants to make out he/she will look at your lips for maybe a second.


  • If you just plan to make out, never make out after heavy alcohol consumption as it could lead into doing something you didn't want to do.
  • Be aware that this kind of kissing can be hard to cover up. Yes, hickeys. If you don't want to worry about hiding them, guide your partner away from the sensitive skin of the neck. If you find it worth it, check out Remove a Hickey.
  • Don't be too forceful (kissing hard) unless you know they like it.
  • If you don't like the way this person kisses, consider whether you are just used to something else. Especially when people get out of long-term relationships and start anew, they may miss the way their ex kissed them.
  • Always be tactful and nice about telling someone what you like and don't like about their kissing. This can be a very sensitive subject, and your partner may become anxious or feel threatened or hurt, sometimes to the point that he or she will never want to kiss you again.

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