How to Make Your Boyfriend Kiss You

Three Parts:Setting the MoodGiving Him Physical CluesGiving Him Verbal Clues

Have you started a relationship with that special guy, but you're not quite sure how to get that first kiss you've been looking for? Follow these steps to clue your boyfriend in on the fact that you really want to be kissed.

Part 1
Setting the Mood

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    Brush your teeth and tongue well before you meet up with him. It also can't hurt at all to floss thoroughly. There's nothing worse than kissing someone with bad breath, or someone who still has leftovers stuck between her teeth.
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    Get him alone. Your guy may want to kiss you, but may be nervous to do so in front of other people. The only prompting he may need to kiss you is to be alone with you. If you are with a group of friends or at a party, make up an excuse that leads to the two of you being by yourselves. Walk up to him, touch his arm, and tell him you want to speak with him. Or, grab his hand and ask him to come with you--he’s your boyfriend after all!
    • Stay close to him when you two are alone. If you're not that close to him or you keep something in between you two, he may think you don't want to kiss.
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    Do something romantic. You don’t have to lay out a candlelit dinner to make a moment feel romantic. Anything that involves physical contact is good. If you can cause a bit of sexual tension, even better.
    • Invite him over to watch a movie or show. Let him sit down on the couch first--you could even make up an excuse to go make popcorn so that he settles in first. When you come back, slide in right next to him, leaving no room for him to chicken out and move away. Chances are, he will put his arm around you--a stepping stone on the path to kissing.
    • Have a picnic somewhere secluded. When you two are picnicking, cuddle up close to him and hold out a strawberry or grape, suggesting with your actions that you want to feed it to him. Move your eyes from his eyes to his lips, and back up. When you feed it to him, let your fingertips lightly brush his lips.
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    Create a clever ruse to get him close to you. If your guy is shy, he’s probably looking for a subtle way to get close to your face, so give him a reason to do so. Come up with a clever reason for the two of you to get close to each other. When he leans in, give him your best ‘smoldering-temptress-wanting-to-be-kissed’ look. Your ruse may create the moment he has been looking for to kiss you.[1]
    • Tell him that you want to get a better look at his eye color, or that you think there is something in your eye and you’d really appreciate him looking. You could also pretend that there is a crumb on his face--lean in when you ‘wipe’ it off and look up into his eyes.

Part 2
Giving Him Physical Clues

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    Break the touch barrier if you haven’t already. Touch his elbow, hold hands, brush his hair out of his face or gently put a hand on his knee. Tearing down this barrier will help the both of you get past some of the hang-ups that you may have about physical contact.
    • Once you've broken the touch barrier keep on breaking it. When you laugh, place your hand on his arm. When you walk, grab his hand and hold it. Hopefully he will meet you halfway and begin grabbing your hand too.
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    Cuddle up with him. Cuddling lets him know that you like physical contact, and that you are really comfortable with him. It is one of the biggest clues you can give him--and cuddling often leads to kissing.
    • While you are cuddling, lean your head against his shoulder. Entwine your fingers with his and lean back contentedly. All of these physical clues will tell your guy, “I love being close to you, now kiss me you silly boy!”
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    Work on your pucker. Getting your guy’s full attention on your lips will make the idea of kissing you unavoidable. Do everything you can to keep his attention on your lips. A classic approach is to bite your lip gently while looking at him.[2]
    • Apply lip balm to your lips (and let him watch you do it.) Just keep in mind that lip gloss can be sticky, and thus make your kiss sticky. Use a lip balm or chapstick if you want to avoid a sticky situation.
    • Run an ice cube over your lips if it's hot out. Not only will this look seductive, it will also give your lips a shiny look similar to balm.
    • Lick your lips as if you’re eating something juicy. If you are eating watermelon, ice cream, or something that is drip prone, let a little get on your lips and then slowly lick it off. Just be careful to avoid looking like a slob when trying this--you are going for temptress, not ‘girl in serious need of a napkin.’
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    Flirt with your eyes. Eye contact is a big part of clueing your guy in on the fact that you want to be kissed. Look him in the eyes and smile gently. Smile with your eyes. Glance from his eyes to his lips a couple times, perhaps adding a flirtatious batting of your eyelashes.
    • Here is another way to flirt with your eyes: when you two are looking at each other, especially when your faces are close together, hold eye contact for a moment, then drop your eyes bashfully. Look down for a moment, and then glance back up.
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    Give him some serious clues when you are saying goodbye. If you are hoping for a good night kiss, this is particularly important. When you are saying goodbye, hug him close and kiss him on the cheek. After kissing him on the cheek, look into his eyes. Even if he doesn't kiss you right then, you will have shown him that you are perfectly fine with kissing and physical contact.
    • When hugging him, you could place your head on his chest so that he holds you closer. If you do this, make sure to have some irresistible perfume on--he won’t be able to help but notice how delicious you smell.

Part 3
Giving Him Verbal Clues

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    Flirt with your words. Just because he is your boyfriend already doesn't mean you should stop flirting. Flirting keeps a relationship light and healthy--plus it will show him that you’re still very into him. Play coy and tease him (but not too much.) You could even tease him about not kissing you (which is a pretty direct way of saying ‘I want you to kiss me!’)
    • Send him flirty text messages when you guys aren't together. Flirtatious, funny texts are a great way to be cute with him even when you’re not around him. Just keep in mind that you don’t want to overload him with texts--that can be a turn off.
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    Make him feel confident. Guys like to feel like they are the big, strong men in girls’ lives--so make your guy feel that way. Even if you don’t necessarily need him to open a tightly-lidded jar, it's a nice confidence boost for him when you say something like ‘ooh! Look at those muscles!’ This is, of course, another form of flirting, but it is the kind that will boost his confidence--hopefully giving him the confidence to then lean in and kiss you!
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    Be direct and ask him to kiss you. Being direct has its ups and downs. The ups are, you will most likely get results immediately, and it will show your guy how confident you are--which is very sexy. The downside is that the results you get immediately might not be the ones you want. He may still need some time to overcome his shyness, or he might not be as into it as you thought. No matter what, you will get results--and you are taking the pressure off him by telling him exactly what you want.
    • You can make your request sexy and still direct. When you are hugging goodbye, lean in close so that your lips brush his ear and whisper something like “Kiss me” or “I want to kiss you.” Chances are, your words, and that little brush of your lips, will be enough to make him lose any shyness he might have and go right in for the kiss.

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  • Don't force him! Nobody likes to be forced into a kiss.
  • By giving him a huge smile and a hug afterward, he'll know he's done well and that you're very happy about the whole thing, which will make him happier too!
  • To avoid making the moments after a kiss feel awkward, look deep into his eyes and give him a meaningful smile.
  • Don't look nervous. That will just make him nervous.
  • If the kiss doesn't go well the first time, don't freak out! Chances are he was nervous--don't show him that you think anything was weird. If you want to, try kissing him this time.
  • If he's coming over to your house and you have siblings, make sure that they don’t bother you, as this may result in him not wanting to kiss you.
  • If everything goes well at first, try brushing your hands through his hair. This is fun and flirty, and will show him you're enjoying it.
  • If you don't get the kiss the first time you try for it, don't sweat it. Some guys are more shy than others when it comes to physical contact.
  • If he is known as an amazing kisser, don't sweat it because chances are you'll learn a lot from kissing him and he'll enjoy just having you there!
  • If all else fails, make the first move! Kiss him and see how it goes. He may be grateful that you made the first move.
  • If he won't kiss you, he might just be shy, or feel you are moving too fast. Give it time.
  • Some guys don't like physical contact straight away, so do not rush into anything if you or him do not feel comfortable.
  • Make sure you don't pucker your lips whilst kissing, because its not at all sexy and might put him off.
  • If you want another kiss just give him a calm nice smile then go for another.
  • If you be direct and just ask him and he says no than ask him why so you know how to make him more comfortable.
  • Try not to open your eyes as this can feel awkward.
  • Don't be too intense on the first one. Take your time.
  • If you'd like them to kiss you, get close and while looking at them, at the right moment, glance at their lips. Don't stare though.
  • If this is your first kiss, start off slow and maybe later kisses start to get more intense.
  • Try not to open your eyes because you will make it awkward.

Try not to laugh.

  • Keep your eyes closed because staring at your partner during a kiss may make it awkward and he might pull away.
  • Pull your guy in close, look into his eyes, look at his lip, bite your lip, then look back into his eyes.
  • When you text him try to be wild and spontaneous, he will get turned on.
  • Keep your eyes closed during the kiss - staring can make things awkward and reduce chances of another kiss later.
  • Smile right before the kiss(if you're brave), to assure him that you want to kiss him.
  • Show your love by not being so shy or awkward, make the first move.
  • Feel free to tell him that you liked the kiss or that you'd like to do it again.
  • Give him the confidence to kiss you.
  • If your boyfriend is shy, don't rush; he might need to get to know you more before he feels comfortable kissing you.
  • When you kiss don't just stand/sit there use your hands move them over his body while kissing.
  • Don't be afraid to surprise him with a cute, flirty kiss on the lips. Just act as if it was on the cheek.
  • Look bashful for a moment, then look back up again so he can't help but notice how cute you are. And if your hair is down and you put a lock behind your ear while doing this, it's even better.
  • Don't laugh, even if things are awkward.
  • If you like each other, just tell him straight up to kiss you.
  • Don't over flirt. It portrays desperation.
  • If you feel like you need to burp, end the kiss by gently pulling away when it feels right and politely cover your mouth and burp.

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