How to Stand up to Rude People

Rude people can absolutely make your face turn red and you feel like you want to slap them. Read this article to find out how to stand up to those bullies and show them that they are just as vulnerable as you are.


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    If someone is being rude, speak up. If they are saying mean or demeaning things about you or another person, don't just sit there and let it happen. Do something about it. Tell the rude person that what you think they're saying is wrong and if they persist to do it, you will take it to the next level. At first, this may sound a bit corny, and your abuser may just scoff in your face, but it works. The rude person will go through the next couple of days feeling guilty for what they've done.
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    Use simple and small words. It's as easy as that. If you're too shy to stand up to the person, simply say, "So?" or "Okay," The bully will simply be caught so off guard by your response that they will not come up with a comeback. Rude people's goals are ultimately designated to make other people feel bad about themselves. If they see that they have no effect on you then they will eventually leave you alone.
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    If the rude person will not leave you alone, simply hit them with a comeback. It may seem rude, but if all else fails, give the abuser a taste of their own medicine. Simple as that. The abuser will eventually feel that their pursuit on you is useless and leave you alone.
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    Sound confident. Make sure your voice is clear and confident. If you have a quite or wavering voice, practice with a recorder to see if you sound assertive enough.
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    Match your expression with your words. If your expression look incredibly sad or angered, make sure you adjust it. While speaking these words, your face must remain calm yet determined to show the rude person that you are there to get what you want and there is nothing they can do to stop you.


  • It is also important not to lose control of your emotions or to get aggressive either. There is nothing wrong with elevating the volume of your voice to express a particular point if you intuitively feel this is necessary, but think of your environment (those around you etc.); it's better to do so in open surrounds (preferably where there are no other people around to offend).
  • Remember whatever the outcome of your encounter by following these tips you will come out a better person because you will have expressed yourself and this is marvelously liberating.
  • Remember eye contact and self-expression will dominate any conversation. This is important especially if you are facing up to someone who you are afraid of, and who are perhaps an unknown quantity. So remember to look your protagonist in the eyes and to express what you are feeling.
  • At all times use your breathing pattern to stay calm. Breath regularly and deeply; this will assist you to be more relaxed during this dialogue. By being calm and in control increases your ability to keep to your point and to stay logical. This can also prevent you from saying or doings things you regret in this type of situation.
  • Remember maybe it's not them. Maybe it's you. So it may feel good to give people a taste of their own medicine but don't take it too far because that could get you into some trouble.


  • Don't sound too mean or too nice. The bully won't take you seriously.
  • Make sure when coming up with comebacks, that they are not too harsh. You don't want to go from being the victim to the rude person.
  • Remember he who uses violence to defend his or her rights forfeit whatever right they had to defend in the first place. So make sure you preserve your right by keeping your communication purely verbal and controlled.

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